Cómo tener buen sexo durante y después de la menopausia

Deseo sexual

It's usual for your sex drive to vary throughout your lifespan. There is no 'recommended' frequency for sex. This is a choice that's personal for you. However, sexual desire may decrease when you reach menopause.

The hormones oestrogen, progesterone, and testosterone are all important in sexual desire. Falling hormone levels around the time of the menopause can result in middle-aged spread, hot flushes, and drier skin - all of which can erode your sex drive (libido). Sleep can also be disturbed, and a lack of energy can also contribute to.

But we can't blame hormones alone. At this stage in life, a woman may be juggling a job, a marriage, and teenagers - often a recipe for increased stress levels that can put tension on a relationship.

Dr Heather Currie, Trustee of the British Menopause Society and founder of Menopause Matters says: "It is common to lose interest in sex around the time of the menopause as hormone levels fall. This is often temporary, and being able to talk things through with an understanding partner may be all that's needed.

Other symptoms of the menopause can also indirectly contribute to a reduced libido, such as flushes, sweats, tiredness, and mood changes. To treat these symptoms, HRT - which aims to top up oestrogen levels throughout the body - can be considered."

La comunicación es la clave

It's important to be open with your partner and discuss how you're feeling and what your needs are. Make time for each other by going on dates or having quality time together. Feeling loved, desired, and secure is a core part of sexual relations. Remember, sexual intimacy does not always mean penetrative sex - it can be kissing, massage, and oral sex too.

Ayuda hormonal

For some women, systemic - meaning circulating in the blood around the body - hormone replacement therapy (HRT) can help with the troublesome symptoms of the menopause, reducing overall distress and, in turn, boosting sex drive.

Due to its active role in libido, some studies suggest that additional testosterone replacement may have a benefit on improving sex drive in menopausal women. Testosterone is produced by the adrenal glands and the ovaries, and levels start to fall from middle age.

A type of tablet HRT called tibolone, suitable for women whose periods have stopped, may increase testosterone-like activity in the body. Other forms of testosterone are usually in the form of a gel that you apply topically.

Dealing with vaginal dryness

A fall in oestrogen from menopause can affect the tissues of the vagina, making them less moisturised and elastic. This can lead to vaginal dryness and discomfort, which can make sex painful - a condition known as atrophic vaginitis.

A survey by 'Menopause Matters' demonstrated that around 1 in 2 menopausal and postmenopausal women have vaginal issues, but very few feel able to talk about them with their doctor or partner. For many, these symptoms can have a big effect on their sex life.

Pruebe un lubricante

"Existen varias opciones de tratamiento para la sequedad vaginal. Sin embargo, se recomienda a las mujeres que prueben primero las opciones de autoayuda antes de buscar consejo médico", afirma Currie.

"Regular use of vaginal moisturisers and lubricants applied to your vulva, vagina or your partner's penis to keep the vagina moist can help reduce dryness and discomfort. It is important to remember, however, that oil and petroleum-based products can damage latex condoms and irritate your vagina."

Water-based or silicone-based lubricants are recommended. Vaginal moisturisers such as Sylk and Replens can also be effective. To help treat the effects of a lack of oestrogen, topical oestrogen treatment can also be of benefit. Oestrogen creams, pessaries, or a vaginal ring can be used to replenish the tissues and provide relief. The dose of oestrogen is so small it does not carry the same risks as the higher-strength systemic HRT. In fact, topical oestrogen creams can be purchased at the pharmacy.

Su suelo pélvico

In addition to vaginal dryness and discomfort, some women may experience other urogenital symptoms with the menopause. Declining hormone levels can contribute to laxity of the pelvic floor. This can result in issues such as pelvic organ prolapse, needing to pee often or urgently (stress urinary incontinence or urgency) and recuring urinary tract infections (UTIs). All of these can present potential barriers for sexual relations.

Qué puede ayudar

The use of topical oestrogen creams or pessaries may help to alleviate urinary symptoms such as incontinence and needing to pee and have also been shown to have a positive impact on recuring UTI.

Pelvic floor exercises can help to strengthen the muscles supporting your vagina, bladder, and bottom - improving symptoms such as stress urinary incontinence, and pelvic organ prolapse. They can even make sex feel better too!

Beneficios después de la menopausia

It's not all bad news for your sex life after the menopause. Middle age has its benefits too.

Libertad sexual

Puede que los hijos mayores hayan abandonado el nido y ya no tengas que limitar las relaciones sexuales a un estrecho margen cuando los niños están en la cama. Eres libre de practicar sexo cuando y donde quieras.

Adiós a las hemorragias

Menopause is when you have not had a period for 12 months - so you are free from periods forever. Time to say goodbye to years of periods pains, tampons, and sanitary towels. Many women in the menopause find that the absence of menstruation actually increases their sexual desire.

Sin miedo al embarazo

Si tiene más de 50 años, puede dejar de utilizar anticonceptivos un año después de que le baje la regla. Si tiene menos de 50 años, tendrá que esperar dos años.