Primer periodo - apoyando a tu hijo cuando comienza la menstruación

This article was updated by Lawrence Higgins on 31/03/23. It was originally written by Gillian Harvery and published on 14/04/22.

For the purpose of this article 'girls, females, or women' are those individuals assigned as female at birth. It is not intended to exclude or dismiss individuals who do not identify as female.

When is my child likely to start their period?

The average age at which girls get their first period is 12. However "there is a large normal range, between the ages of 10 and 16," explains Dr Deborah Lee, from Farmacia en Línea Dr Fox. Some may start their period as young as 8 years old. If your child begins to menstruate before this age, it's important to seek advice from a healthcare professional.

Although almost impossible to predict, physical markers may give a clue to when an individual girl may start their period, the first period usually starts two years or so after breast development begins," says Lee.

Este cuestionario may help you identify these and some of the other symptoms associated with the first period.

It's advisable to talk to your child about growing up at the onset of puberty or earlier so they are prepared for the next stage in their development.

It can be hard to engage adolescents in conversation at the best of times, but even more so when the subject matter might cause embarrassment. Nobody knows your child better than you - and how best to approach the subject of their first period will vary from person to person.

"I'd recommend starting by noting that they'll soon be going through a phase of physical change to prepare them for adulthood, and asking if they have any questions," explains Dr Sharie Coombes psychotherapist and author of Choose You!. "Also ask them if they've heard things that they're not sure about: often they hear snippets of exaggerated and wrong information which may be scary."

For some girls, this will be the start of an open dialogue around physical changes. Others may feel less able to open up. "If a child is embarrassed and not able to ask anything, try offering them a book or two to read on the subject. After reading, you can discuss the books if they feel ready. It's important to stress that even if they are embarrassed we, as a parent, won't be and that it's something that we all go through," explains Coombes.

So what physical symptoms might accompany a girl's first period?

Light or heavy bleeding

"The first period may be short or long but will usually last between 2-7 days. First periods are often anovulatory - the ovary has tried to ovulate and failed. Because of this, the periods are often irregular, and the bleeding episodes may be either very light, or heavy and prolonged," says Lee.

"The first few periods may well be heavier than an average period and will be likely to settle down as the cycle becomes established," explains Lee.

The heaviest bleeding usually takes place during the first two days. Blood colour can range from red to darker colours such as brown or even black.

Períodos irregulares

We tend to think of periods as a monthly occurrence, but in reality, it can take several years for periods to develop into a regular pattern. "By five years post-menarche (after periods start), 95% of menstrual cycles are 21-40 days in length. As ovulation becomes more regular, the menstrual pattern stabilises," explains Lee.

Spotting

"Some people will also experience a little spot bleeding in the run-up to their first period(s) which is normal and to be expected. If it fails to settle within a few cycles, this should be discussed with your GP," says Lee.

Dolor

Most girls experience a little mild to moderate cramping around the time of their first period, or indeed when on their period in general. This can usually be soothed with a heat pad or, if the pain is more pronounced, by taking paracetamol. However, if your child experiences severe cramping, including pain that doesn't settle with painkillers or that's interfering with their activities, it's worth having a chat with your GP. The GP may prescribe medication to relieve the pain or, in some circumstances, may investigate other causes.

The age at which a girl starts their first period can vary, but if your child has not started their periods by the age of 16, it's important to seek medical advice. In addition, "if a girl goes three months without a period, this should be discussed with a healthcare professional," advises Lee.

Heavy bleeding (menorrhagia) "such that a tampon or pad lasts only 1-2 hours and/or bleeding episodes last more than seven days" should also prompt healthcare advice and may require investigation.

When to see a doctor for spotting between periods

"Although premenstrual spotting is common early on if this persists, or bleeding develops in between the periods, this would also be a reason to see the GP," advises Lee.

The emotional impact of a period can be one of the most difficult aspects to explain and cope with. Adolescents go through a wide range of emotions due to fluctuating hormone levels at this time, and may also experience a reaction to the period itself.

Your child may not know how they feel about periods until they experience their first one. Many will be quite pleased to get their first period, but all reactions are valid. "Explain that everyone feels differently when they start their periods," advises Coombes. "They might feel excited, nervous or even disgusted. It's best not to over-define with them how they might feel, but talk about accepting what feelings come up and knowing where to get support.

"Some girls have a denial of their periods and struggle to cope with a maturing body. They will probably benefit from counselling to cope with the loss involved. In addition, for those with disforia de género, this may prove a challenging time."

In premenstrual syndrome, hormonal fluctuations cause girls to feel "tired and irritable", around the time of their first period. They may experience mood swings, lethargy or changes in appetite.

Physically, many girls find they experience breast tenderness, headaches, spotty skin or bloating around the time of their period.

Many of these symptoms are los síntomas premenstruales, and a girl may go on to experience some of these symptoms, every month, in the few days before the onset of a period.

Everyone is different and it's important not to alarm your child about the possible negative side effects. But having an understanding of how they might feel before and during menstruation should help them to manage their symptoms more effectively.

Of course, as well as talking about periods, it's important to make some physical preparations for when the time comes.

There are several options when it comes to sanitary protection. Tampons can be used from the first period, although many decide to start with sanitary towels. Reusable sanitary towels can be an eco-friendly option, as can period knickers - knickers that effectively absorb period blood - or menstrual cups. Talk to your child about what they might prefer, and have a few products ready for when the day comes.

Toxic shock syndrome (TSS) is an infection that may occur when using tampons or menstrual cups, as demonstrated in this study. While it's important to familiarise yourself and your child with symptoms of toxic shock syndrome, it's important to remember that this condition is extremely rare.

It's also a good idea for your child to have a period product with them - encourage them to pack something discreetly in their school bag to ensure they are prepared.

A first period can be an important developmental milestone. Ensuring you prepare your child will help to minimise any difficulties and enable them to move forward into a new phase of life.